Fancy yourself as a bit of a mixologist? There's nothing more impressive than a man or woman that knows their way round the liquor cabinet in my opinion so why not try your hand at this delicious cocktail recipe for a bit of a twist the classic mojito?
Kinky Lychee Mojito
Ingredients
3 limes
3 cubes brown sugar
5 mint leaves
30ml Kinky Lux White Rum
15ml lychee liqueur
15ml mojito syrup
Garnish
1 lychee
Method
1. Muddle the limes, brown sugar and mint leaves in a glass - It's important to really use your upper body strength to get the flavours going!
2. Add Kinky Lux White rum, lychee liqueur and mojito syrup to the muddled mixture - if you are averse to having bits of mint surprising you as you enjoy, you can always use a strainer although it's a little more authentic with a bit of texture!
3. Add crushed ice and stir well - this is where you get to show off with your cocktail shaker
4. Garnish with a lychee and serve
Now don't go getting too fancy with the cocktail shaker - this drink is definitely best enjoyed in a glass and not on the floor, although drink too many of these bad boys and that's sure to be where you end up!
We have plenty more great recipes to come but why not try this out and let us know what you think...!
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Many clients ask me what is the number one trait to have in attracting women and I always respond with the word “confidence”. The simple fact is that confidence is magnetic, it is attractive and women desire it. In this article I would like to talk about confidence and how to improve it.
I think in order to portray confidence a man needs to feel confident, confident that he is a good catch, confident that he is desirable and most importantly confident in the actions he takes as a man when courting women.
You see most men fall into the trap of trying to impress a woman, overly please her and try to come across as the perfect gentleman. Although this sounds good in theory, the reality is that there is no such thing as perfect. You are not perfect and she is not perfect. When a man places this type of pressure on himself, to only do and say the right things, the opposite occurs and he becomes, insecure, nervous, and stilted. This is when he usually blows it.
Think about this situation. When was the last time you saw an attractive woman, perhaps you tried to talk to her but the words simply would not come out the way you wanted. You felt nervous and scattered, uneasy with yourself. This is an example of a lack of confidence, you feel it, she feels it, and it’s unattractive. Whenever you feel that you need to impress somebody by only doing the right things this makes you insecure. Most men feel they need to be perfect around women. Understanding this concept is the first step to reversing this effect and thus improving self- confidence.
The next part is to take a look at your life and ask “what’s in it for her”. What does she gain by getting to know you and how can her life improve? If you come to the conclusion that you also bring value to the table and that not only do you gain something from her, but equally as important, she also gains something from you, your sense of self worth can begin to improve as now you see this as an equal exchange of value. You won’t feel so much like the underdog and you can begin to be yourself.
Finally I would focus on the physical aspects of confidence. Make sure to have good eye contact with a woman when speaking to her, try not to fidget too much and do obvious things like scratching your face several times demonstrating that you are nervous. I would strongly suggest taking a few deep breaths and just try to relax around women and focus on getting to know them as opposed to just making a good impression.
Men need to realise that women are not so different when it comes to dating. They also have their insecurities around meeting quality men and also unsure about men’s thinking and what they want.
Do some work around discovering the value you bring to women, be conscious of your body language, and keep in mind that women are just like you and don’t hold any special power. Try to get out there and practice! Talk to lots of women and get to know them. Speed dating is a great way to start as you can literally talk to several women and build up your practice rapidly.
And never forget to have fun. Dating is not supposed be taken to seriously and it’s simply an interaction. Now get out there and have fun!
Thanks for reading.
Colin Dubb
Day Game Dating
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Jessica Biel & Justin Timberlake
Good Afternoon Jessica and Justin. Thank you so much for coming in to see me. I understand you have busy schedules…well Justin does.
Now…it has come to the attention of many bitter single women that after a break earlier this year you have decided to re-kindle your 4-year relationship.
Congratulations Jessica, I’m sure you are thrilled, let’s be honest you were punching above your weight there. Justin I would like to offer you some advice!... RUN. Let the much missed ‘trouser-snake’ roam free.
What were you thinking? Of all the exes to go back and settle for did you not give a second thought to Cameron? Or how about making some dreams come true and whisking Britney away again? (preferably in your matching denim outfits) No?! Back to Jessica? Was she just nearest to you or can you not resist the weepy eyes? …Sorry Jessica, the truth does hurt, would you perhaps like some tissues?
I, professionally speaking, feel a proper split is what is needed, you both need to move on. Justin, maybe a bit of freedom will help motivate you to make music again…we’re all waiting. And Jessica, maybe the split will help you with your acting career…help you to finally mould yourself into a three dimensional character with feelings and emotions in yet another one of your painful rom-coms?
A life lesson here is…only go forward, never go back…unless it is with Britney spears! Sound advice I think you’ll agree.
Some say it's looks, others say it's what's inside that counts - but surely there has to be something more to what makes somebody attractive...
Sitting across the table from a very attractive gentlemen who had taken me out for dinner one evening, I started pondering what it was about him that I found so appealing. Admittedly he was very handsome in that chiseled way that movie stars have perfected over the decades - but there are plenty of good looking people out there and not all would I say I was attracted to (and thank heavens, else I'd never get anything done!).
After a few too many glasses of pinot the conversation took a more flirtatious turn and I did pose this question to him - what is it that makes somebody attractive?
Passion - he said. If somebody can talk with genuine passion, about something else other than themselves then that makes them an attractive person.
"So if I was to sit here and become passionate about my shoe collection, you're telling me that would make me an attractive person?"
Apparently that is the exception!!
I don't think this is a hard and fast rule but I think there is something to this whole passion thing. If somebody is passionate about politics, sport, art or any number of other topics it does imply a certain drive / thirst for knowledge.
Being educated, socially aware and excited by the outside world will always be attractive because, as we all know, looks fade quickly but if you are drawn to somebodies mind the spark is sure to last much longer.
It sounds cliche but ultimately, and I can only speak from a woman's perspective but I have been assured that men out there feel the same way, if somebody has the capacity to feel passionately about surfing or reading then chances are they have the capacity to be passionate about you too!
Passion makes you interesting, exciting and says to members of the opposite sex that you have something to offer besides what is on the surface!
So why not take up a hobby and find your passion? Start taking pictures, read more, get sporty and make sure that you are a fully fulfilled individual with plenty to offer!
But then this is just my (and that very good looking date's) view on attraction - I'd love to hear what you think makes somebody attractive....
"Wine makes every meal an occasion, every table more elegant, every day more civilized."
--- André Simon
Well Andre, that may be the case, but often the ordering of the wine can present a few problems! What colour with what food? Old world or new? How expensive do you go?
The first step in the process is elimination! If you can eliminate half the wines you can eliminate half the stress. Most people are aware of the general rules regarding what colour to order with what type of food but sometimes it's good to refresh - Red goes great with red meat and rich game! White is perfect with fish and creamy pastas.
Another great tip is to order Spanish wines such as Rioja with foods such as tapas and paella and order Italian wines with rich pastas and pizzas, this makes the entire meal feel more authentic.
Another question we hear from our members a lot at our wine tasting events is how expensive do you go? The trick here is to have a budget in mind before you enter the restaurant. Beware the house wines as often they have a very high mark-up relative to the quality of the bottle. A good rule of thumb is to order the 3rd cheapest - it shows you are prepared to spend a little money without breaking the bank.
The most important tip to remember - and this one in particular applies to the guys - do not be afraid to ask for direction from your server! A lot of restaurants have excellent sommeliers who will take the time to listen to your preferences and asking for help ensures you get great bang for your buck.
The next part of the wine ritual is the tasting - this comes from the days when wine could be 'corked' but so many great wines are screw tops so this really is just a bit of pomp and ceremony now. When tasting the wine don't be too worried about the fancy swirling and sucking motion, just look at the colour and let your palate do the talking. If you suspect a bottle of being corked (and it's pretty easy to tell!) be firm but polite with your server.
Wine can seem like a minefield of potential faux pas but it is there to be enjoyed - obviously not too much! Everyone has their own opinions on what makes a great wine but if the company is wonderful, chances are, it won't matter if you ended up drinking goon, it would still be a night to remember!
Having a 'type' can be interpreted differently depending on who you are speaking to; Some people base their type on looks, others on personality, some on occupation and many on all of the above.
A person's type also tends to evolve with age, I remember thinking I would never love any man quite as much as I loved Jason Donovan (I was 8) but little did I know Westlife were going to enter my life and turn my world upside down.
There are men that go for curvy latinas with a passion for dance, there are women that love nothing more than a trady - when asked, I'm certain the vast majority of us would say we had a 'type', a set of criteria that we believe members of the opposite sex must meet in order for us to feel that illusive spark.
What we, here at Fast Impressions, have learnt from our many years of bringing couples together is that sometimes the best thing you can do is throw away the check list and open yourself up to the possibility that love (or lust) might exist outside the confines of 'type'.
So if you consider yourself a 'type' lover I urge you to try something new - come to an event and tick yes to the man or woman that 'is not really my type...' after all, you just don't know where it could lead.
Post events dos and don'ts...
Speed Dating is without doubt an unbeatable opportunity to have fun, expand your social circle and maybe even meet a potential partner.
So if you’re thinking of participating in a speed dating event or you’ve already been to one, you’re probably full of questions about post speed dating etiquette. Should you follow the usual dating rules … can’t look too keen, wait at least 3 days to call, don’t be too available … Who approaches whom? What do you say? Where do you go? How long should you wait to contact someone?
Let’s wind back a little. You’ve been to a speed dating session and met a certain hottie, or maybe even hotties... Then you wait to find out who liked you too. To your delight most of the people that you selected liked you too! The next day you walk around the office in euphoria with a silly grin on your face. Your colleagues probably think that something’s up, but they don’t know just how lucky you got last night!
But what next? There are no hard and fast rules as to who contacts who. The reality is you both know that you like each other so the main factor that puts people off making the first move, namely “rejection”, is out the window.
The best advice is to make the contact sooner rather than later. You may as well strike while the iron's hot, and more importantly whilst you remember which of your speed dates you are contacting!
So you’ve made the call, and to your relief you both have a little laugh about how much fun you had at the speed dating event, you chat about how your week has been and you decide that you quite like the person’s company. From this point you should treat the situation as you would any other where you meet someone you like. Arrange to meet for a drink, for dinner or the double whammy dinner & movie date. Treat it as a normal date, there’s no need to pack your toothbrush, razor or spare knickers!
But what if you wake up the next morning and get jittery about who you’ve selected? You’re just not 100% sure about them. What should you do if you change your mind? It happens to the best of us. It’s pretty normal not to be sure about someone before a first date, isn’t that the whole point of dating – to cull through the numbers in search of that special someone? Remember, selecting someone at a speed dating singles event does not mean that wedding bells will be ringing. Speed dating is about expanding your social circle.
If you’re not sure about someone, why not organize to meet for a fixed time period such as lunch during a busy workweek or a drink after work (where you have plans afterwards, or concoct some!). If during this first date you decide you really don’t want to see the person again and want to make this message clear, you could go for “Got to get home to my triplets, they’re all teething!” That ought to do the trick. Or for the boys “Mum’s expecting me home for dinner. Love living with my mum, why would anyone ever move?”
What if you are attempting to make contact and no joy; despite refreshing your email or checking your phone a zillion times there’s no flirty response awaiting. It’s safe to say if you don’t receive a response after 2 attempts it’s time to head back to the drawing board, and sign up for your next speed dating event. After all, it’s a numbers game!
Women want a man with a plan, not a boy with a toy.
I'm not entirely certain who told men that women like to be kept waiting, that if you don't call when you say you will we will just fall at your feet in adoration, but whoever it was needs a stern telling off.
This approach, admittedly, may have worked in the playground where pig tail pulling and name calling was the height of sophistication but here, in the real world of men and women, this does not make for harmonious cohabitation.
We want a man with a plan!
At this point I feel it's necessary to explain the 'boy with a toy' analogy. When a little boy gets a new toy it's all very shiny and distracting - he likes to chuck it about a bit, leave it places and wander off to another sand pit, then heaven forbid another little tot should take a liking to the toy! A little boy with a new toy likes to play, then he gets bored.
In the dating world this boy will forget about you, change plans, tell you he is crazy about you, disappear for days on end then pick you up as if no time has passed at all.
There is a myth that this keeps us girlies on our toes - it does not. This will wear thin after about a week because, what women really want , is a man with a plan!
We want a man to take charge - "I'm picking you up at this time, let's go here, yes we will do this, I will call you then..."
I think men, and women, get confused easily in love - I know I certainly do - and you would think that working in the world of match making might somehow have provided me with all the answers - it hasn't.
But what I do know, thanks to that lovely lady member at our event last night, is that women want a man with confidence, who takes control of the situation, who knows who he is and what he's about without the need for silly play ground games.
So boys listen up - there's no need to give us girls the run around in order to get our attention. If you are a real man, and I know Fast Impressions members certainly are, then take control - show us that you are worth dating and put that plan in action!
